In the Mormon church, your wedding day is supposed to be sacred and beautiful—but behind closed temple doors, the reality is often isolating, rushed, and spiritually coercive. In this video, I’ll share why I regret my Mormon temple wedding, and discuss the toll of secret ceremonies, worthiness interviews, and harmful teachings around eternal marriage and polygamy. From feeling invisible in a “bride factory” to the profound damage purity culture inflicts on intimacy, I’ll break down the hidden costs of an “eternal” wedding ceremony.
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A few resources I mention in the video:
*Secret recording of LDS wedding ceremony: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zgf5KRvu4Ig
*The CES Letter, a great summary of all the reasons the Mormon church is not the truth: https://read.cesletter.org/
*My book, How to Leave the Mormon Church: https://a.co/d/cS0z9c3
*Explanation of Mormon garments/underwear: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tg7SHBhZn6o&t=4649s
*Explanation of Mormon Temple Endowment Ceremony (the outfit with the green apron): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_eSubCKmGo&t=1s
*Explanation of the New Name and Washing and Anointing Ceremony: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTX3S6RKDcQ
*Temple recommend “worthiness” questions: https://newsroom.churchofjesuschrist.org/article/october-2019-general-conference-temple-recommend
*Other rules/policies for Temple weddings: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/new-era/2004/10/planning-your-temple-wedding?lang=eng
*Doctrine of polygamy in Mormon scripture: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/132?lang=eng
*Rules around sealing cancellation: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/tools/help/submit-an-application-to-the-first-presidency?lang=eng
*New temple ceremony includes the word “love” but also adds phrase about how husband will “preside”: https://exponentii.org/blog/guest-post-why-is-preside-in-the-new-sealing-ceremony/
*LDS Temple Ceremony Explained PDF: https://ldsmormontemple.com/
*Temple New Name Website: https://www.fullerconsideration.com/TempleNameOracle/
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Other resources that may interest you:
*My book, How to Leave the Mormon Church: https://shorturl.at/Vca2z
*Why I left the Mormon Church: https://www.mormontruths.com/why-i-left-the-mormon-church/
*My Mormon Temple endowment explained video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_eSubCKmGo&t=1s
*Mormon garments explained video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tg7SHBhZn6o&t=4651s
*How I told my husband I wanted to leave the church: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=15g6gaz1tnw&t=360s
*My Mormon mission was a waste: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6uicAn4l9z4&t=4s
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